Self love really is the key to improving many different components of your life. I believe that the most important relationship is the one that you have with yourself, and I also believe that we attract what we truly need in our lives, so reading this means that you are on your way to healing yourself. Only the ideas that make sense to you will be accepted by you. The greatest relationship starts with being comfortable with yourself before you can extend outwards to others, so read on for more self love tips!
Our internal dialogue reacts with every cell in our body, absorbing the energy of our thoughts and ideas. We need to eliminate the cause of our negative internal dialogue, for what we choose to think about life becomes true for us. If your mother didn’t know how to love herself, or if your father did not know how to be gentle and kind, there is no way they could have taught you anything different. We are all victims of victims. We can, however, start today to change our mental thought patterns and processes and think more positively. In turn, our body and mind will feel different.
If you have difficulty identifying and putting your finger exactly on what you are feeling, pay close attention to your internal dialogue and notice your inner thoughts at different times throughout the day. What are they expressing to you? Pay attention to your moods too. Write down both your feelings (e.g., worry, anger, joy, happiness), and moods (e.g., irritable, anxious, cheerful), and try doing this several times a day.
Understanding and being gentle with ourselves help us move past the cycles of ‘self-hatred’ and ‘anger.’ Self-approval and self-acceptance in the present moment are the keys to positive changes in our future. Being critical of what we do or don’t do ties with the perfectionist in us. Since no one and nothing is perfect, try releasing the past and be willing to forgive. It’s imperative for our own healing that we release the past, let it go and forgive ourselves.
Factor some play time into your days. A little bit of playfulness keeps you young at heart and taps into that present moment with a childlike feeling of innocence and joy. If you usually take your dog for a walk, try playing with your dog instead. Sing in the shower, be creative with your pastime and remember to enjoy it (without worrying too much about the finished product)!
By sticking to your own personal commitments and goals, you are telling yourself that you are worth it. You are loving yourself by demonstrating that you are important enough to keep to your personal commitments and dreams or goals.
As women, it is inevitable that we compare ourselves with other women. It is one of the hardest things as a woman not to compare ourselves with others, but everyone is unique in their personal expression and talents. You are unlike anyone else – you are you! Cherish that. If you need to compare yourself to something, think about how you were yesterday or how you were last year.
Some believe in complimenting with daily affirmations while others believe in speaking in positive terms. Be your own cheerleader. Encourage yourself as you would a friend or lover. Think about all those judgmental thoughts you typically have with yourself and turn them around into positive phrases in your head instead. Remind yourself of all your personal accomplishments, how beautiful you are and that you are lovable. We forget to give ourselves credit.
I hope these tips will help start you out on the path to heal yourself and learn the craft of loving yourself more each day. It is a process and remember to be gentle with yourself. What are some things you do to help yourself love yourself more?
Sincerely, A Girl With a Purpose